Most people have me pegged as an extrovert. They point out the ease in which I can adapt to social situations. My effortless ability to make friends with people from all walks of life. Some will say that my gregarious and confident nature is a sign of an extrovert. Others will say that my extroversion lies in my predilection for wearing crazy prints and styles that are unseen in current fashion magazines.
Indeed I display many of the traits that are often associated with an extrovert. But here’s the twist – I’m also a writer. Being a writer means that I am prone to reflection and introversion. There are also behavioral traits that can be attributed to the “writer’s selfish gene”, evident in my yearning for company (usually on my terms) and in equal parts, yearning to be in my own company. As if to further highlight this dichotomy, one of my best friends likes to remind me that I am a Gemini, after all.
Outgoing and outspoken, but I still need my downtime
Ben my partner understands my inner duality perfectly. He finds it amusing that a social butterfly like myself will react with annoyance when my concentration is impeded whilst I’m in my own world – whether I’m trying to research ideas or in the midst of capturing these ideas in written form. Ben who accepts that I am not myself unless I have been able to spend time alone affords me the breathing space I require to explore my thoughts uninterrupted.
This could very well be the reason why I am comfortable in our long distance relationship – unconventional though it may seem. And this may also explain why in Ben’s absence, I actually enjoy living alone – in fact, I relish it. So although I gravitate towards extroversion, I need ‘me’ time to function at my optimal level. And besides, in all honesty, it’s extremely exhausting being out and about all the time.
So if you’re feeling out of balance, I prescribe a healthy dose of time alone. Whether you’re having a relaxing bath, reading your favourite magazine or a good book of fiction. Whether you’re going for a quiet walk or run. Meditating or just doing absolutely nothing, whatever this entails to you. It could just be the antidote you need to nourish your mind and body and feel whole again.