Eco Fashion, General, Musings

Buy Nothing New Challenge: It’s Easier Than You Think

January 25, 2015
I wasn't buying anything new - I was buying second hand at my girlfriend's wardrobe clearance sale!

In 2013 I signed up to the Buy Nothing New Challenge. I didn’t have a massive shopping problem like so many fashion people I knew  – I merely wanted to put my sustainability values to the test and challenge myself with this New Year’s resolution. So I vowed not to purchase any new garments or accessories – and if I needed to, would only purchase vintage or second hand. Needless to say I succeeded in the challenge – even wearing vintage jewellery and an impeccable Shag Vintage 50s chiffon dress at my engagement party.

Although I achieved that New Year’s resolution, I know there will be many others attempting it this year. As the first month of 2015 draws to an end, I thought I’d share some advice to help spur on those undertaking the journey – and those who have yet to.

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Wearing Shag Vintage 50s chiffon dress at our second engagement party in Melbourne

Here’s some advice that helped me not buy anything new:

Make it public

When I committed to buying nothing new, I told everyone about the New Year’s resolution: I wrote a blog post about it, I shared the news on social media and told my family and friends. When you announce your intentions publicly, you are more likely to take it seriously as you’re not just accountable to yourself but to the people you have told. The other reason I chose to go public was to help inspire others and network with others who were doing the same. This journey led me to connect me with people that I still call friends today.

Avoid shopping centres whenever possible

I avoided shopping centres for most of that year with a few notable exceptions: when breakfast with a friend turned into a girls day out in which she shopped, I watched and we both gas-bagged; when another girlfriend dropped into the shopping centre because her daughter needed items for an overseas trip; when a best mate had dropped a few sizes (I was so proud) and needed a stylist to help him put together a new wardrobe; and when mum needed help with her Christmas shopping (hers not mine – I opted out of Christmas shopping years ago). Avoiding shopping centres not only gave me precious time to do other things like writing, but I also rid myself of any temptation to buy something I ‘wanted’.

Get a new hobby

If shopping is your hobby, I can understand it’s a hard habit to break. Thus like many other addictions, instead of going cold-turkey, I recommend replacing the habit with another: one that doesn’t involve ‘browsing’ ‘buying’ ‘purchasing’ ‘shopping’ or ‘window shopping.’ When I gave up buying new, I decided to take up running as I had loved it many years prior. Some friends joined in too and before I knew it, we were running with some regularity. So swapping shopping for my new hobby – running – helped me save money, get fit and strengthen my friendships.

Be aware of your ‘weak’ moments

Find constructive ways to deal with your negative emotions, boredom, stress or hormones because if you don’t, you will likely go shopping to find ‘happiness’ – however short lived. The psychology of modern shopping is similar to the psychology of overeating – we do so to fill a void we consciously or subconsciously know is there. So be mindful of these emotions and address these issues in any of the following ways: seeing your doctor, getting counselling, sharing your feelings with friends, meditating, joining a support group or exercise (increases those ‘feel good’ chemicals in your body). As for me, I dealt with those feelings by running – as well as writing this blog.

Splurge on experiences, not things

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Waiting to get my hair styled into cornrows whilst holidaying in Boracay, Philippines, the country of my birth

Indeed we work and earn a pay check so we can acquire the lifestyle we want – otherwise what’s the point of working? However you may have also seen the meme making its rounds on Facebook or Instagram: “Collect moments, not things.” Our society dictates that being successful means acquiring lots of stuff. But a successful life is so much more than buying things. In their book “Everything That Remains” co-authors Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus aka The Minimalists write about living meaningful lives by removing all excess and focussing only on the essential: health, friendships, family and finding what you’re truly passionate about. So take a leaf out of their book and instead of going shopping for useless consumables, invest that money in something that will last: memories, experiences, skills, knowledge and basically anything that will bring real joy into your life. It could be getting a massage, signing up for cooking classes, organising a family day out, hiring a life coach or completing yoga training. My ‘thing’ was attending concerts and travelling. It was money well spent, experiences well documented and memories that will last me a lifetime.

Eco Fashion, Interviews

Models To Look Up To: Ethical Fashion Models – Part 1

January 17, 2015
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With an increasing number of fashion brands ‘going green’ there is also a growing tribe of models leaving behind the standard glamour pack in order to make a difference. Call them ‘eco models’ ‘ethical models’ or ‘green models’, here is a round-up of the fashion models admired not just for their beauty and brains – but for their ethical values too.

Summer Rayne Oakes

Widely considered the world’s first eco and ethical fashion model, US-based Summer Rayne Oakes is more than just a beautiful face. A Cornell University graduate and Udall environmental scholar, Summer got into modelling without compromising her green philosophy. “I was fortunate enough to have agents who believe in me and my work,” says Summer. Modelling exclusively for sustainable brands such as TOMS and Aveeno, Summer’s achievements outside of the modelling arena are many: co-founding Source4Style (a sustainable and ethical fashion marketplace), contributing to TreeHugger.com, providing expert opinion on Discovery Network’s Planet Green and co-authoring the best-selling book Style, Naturally just to name a few.

Image source: thegreengirls.com

Summer Rayne Oakes – Image source: thegreengirls.com

Summer’s love of the environment began in north-eastern Pennsylvania as an ‘outdoorsy’ girl with a penchant for all things related to nature. “In college, people knew me as the rainforest girl with the bug net in her backpack who studied sewage sludge,” says Summer. Summer’s love of the outdoors is still obvious in her preference for trail running over yoga and adventure travel over resorts.

In her book Style, Naturally, Summer also explores her love of fashion: “When I was able to figure out how to combine style with sustainability, I began down a path to a more fulfilling lifestyle. Who I was – my style, so to speak – was no longer conflicting with the way I wanted to live my life. I could finally look good, feel good, and do good – simultaneously: a win-win-win situation.”

Now residing in New York City, the concrete jungle hasn’t tainted Summer’s passion for the environment. She continues to incorporate her eco philosophy in her urban surroundings: “I do what I can—where I can. I normally walk everywhere; nearly 100% of my food purchases are made or produced by local farmers and food makers. I don’t like to waste stuff… I care about purchasing better-made products, things that will last.” One look at her Instagram account is all the proof you need of her sustainable lifestyle. It is peppered with images that are testament to her green lifestyle, from the plants in her bedroom to what’s on her plate: “I’m broadening my horizons now and learning more about how our food affects us.” By that she means her journey into clean eating and detoxing from sugar. Considering all that Summer has achieved in ethical fashion, success in the food arena is almost assured.

Nerida Lennon

Sydney-based Nerida Lennon is just like any other international model you might meet, one so genetically blessed that it takes strength of willpower to look away. But unlike most other fashion models, Nerida thrives on academia.

Nerida’s CV reads as follows: a Psychology and Sociology degree, teacher of Environmental Sociology and writer for The Guardian Sustainable Business. She is also a prominent ethical fashion advocate in her own right, publishing a monthly newsletter featuring the best articles each month from EcoFashion News. “Eco beauty is a strong point for me,” says Nerida, “as is all the wasted food, water bottles, set designs, clothing and so on in the industry.”

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Nerida Lennon – Image courtesy of Nerida Lennon

Scouted by a model agent when she was just 17, Nerida is grateful to have landed a contract with a high profile modelling agency: “I had no idea which agencies were reputable so it’s lucky that I ended up with one of the leading agencies, Vivien’s Model Management.” Nerida’s modelling career took off and she travelled internationally modelling for luxury brands as Gucci and Dior.

Nerida had no intention in becoming a model as a young girl. However her childhood spent in a leafy mountainous outer suburb of Melbourne (Australia) makes it easy to understand how she wound up in sustainable fashion: I grew up in a rainforest on top of Mount Dandenong and as far back as I can remember my father (who was a mathematician) was very concerned about climate change,” Nerida says of her upbringing. “My father designed the house to be more environmentally friendly with rainwater tanks, double-paned windows, stove-heated hot water [and] compost… he also converted both our cars to run on biodiesel which he made himself.”

Her father’s environmental concerns motivated Nerida to attend PowerShift in 2009, a youth climate summit hosted by the Australian Youth Climate Coalition. “It was such a powerful weekend and at the end of the event they asked all attendees to reflect on which area of our lives we could use this new knowledge to make a positive difference,” Nerida recalls. “The fashion industry instantly flashed into my mind, but I quickly pushed it away as I knew it would be challenging… but [it] persisted in my mind as an area I should explore and when I finally did start to research I was shocked to find fashion is the third industry most reliant on natural resources after mining and agriculture.” Once she learned the shocking truth about how clothing production affected not just the environment, but people too, Nerida left traditional modelling. She now works with brands that align with her social and environmentally responsible ethos.

Nerida’s lifestyle is as ethical and sustainable as her wardrobe. She and her partner purchase green electricity, refuse to own cars, buy from Bondi Food Collective (“who source local, seasonal and organic fresh produce, plus dry goods and cleaning products”), use natural, vegan and organic beauty and personal products and incorporate local free-range organic beef into their diets. With plans to move to the US, they also rent a furnished apartment rather than purchase new furnishings. Despite living in an apartment complex, they compost their food scraps and encourage their neighbours to do the same. Nerida’s values even influences her finances: “One of the most important things for me is using my superannuation account investment to support more environmentally and socially responsible businesses such as renewable energy.” Indeed this is an eco model who puts her money exactly where her mouth is.

Amanda Rootsey

She has graced the cover of magazines including sustainable lifestyle mag Peppermint Magazine; has modelled at fashion shows such as Undress Runways, has appeared in countless ethical fashion editorials, writes a column for Nature & Health magazine and is founder of Shine from Within, a holistic deportment training school for teen girls. It is little wonder that Amanda Rootsey is Australia’s most recognised eco model and in fact, the country’s first.

She wasn’t always an eco model though. “I started modelling just after high school and loved it. I loved the friendships I made, the thrill of performing and taking on a role for each new job,” says Amanda who was signed with Vivien’s Model Management and several agencies in Europe.

Amanda Rootsey eco-model

Image source: Kindness By Design

However, after several years, Amanda had a crisis of conscience: “The first time I really thought about where fashion comes from was during a show for Salvatore Ferragamo in Italy,” says Amanda. “I put on this fur coat and remember feeling like something wasn’t right.” She had just turned vegetarian and her personal values weren’t aligned with her modelling work. “It was a powerful moment for me. Suddenly I made the connection between the beautiful animal the coat had been and what it had now become.”

It was only a month later when Amanda received the news that would forever alter the course of her life: she had cancer. “I went vegan, started meditating and totally simplified my life with my partner,” Amanda recalls. “We sold up and ended up living in a recycled shipping container living off the grid for about a year.” Her ‘alternative’ lifestyle coupled with her humility is unusual for a model, but is what makes her so endearing. “This journey really influenced my current direction. Going through something where you spend years just fighting for your life makes you think about the type of world you will leave behind for future generations.”

Amanda’s green values are evident not only in her business and the modelling work she chooses (which of late has become more of a role as brand ambassador) but in how she lives her life. From tending a veggie garden, using 100% natural beauty products (a personal favourite is Australian made Twenty8 chemical-free skincare), supporting and buying second hand where possible and being vegan (“raising livestock is the number one cause of global greenhouse gas emissions according to a report by the UN’s Food and Agricultural Organisation”) Amanda is as green – and as beautiful outside and in – as any human can be.

Emily Kate Symes

Emily Kate Symes is the Australian model turned eco-preneur who’s e-commerce website EKOLUV is embraced by fashionistas and ethical fashion worshippers alike. A member of the Ethical Fashion Forum’s Fellowship 500 for pioneering ethical fashion innovators and a Nature Champion for the Places You Love Alliance (that helps bring awareness of conservation and protecting natural environments globally) Emily is a woman determined to make a difference.

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Emily Kate Symes – Image courtesy of Emily Kate Symes. Photo by Jim Go Yarisantos

Before her involvement in sustainable and ethical fashion, Emily was like any other girl turned model. Discovered by a modelling agent while eating at a Mexican restaurant, the opportunity to travel was all the convincing Emily needed to take up modelling. “[It] got me out of my comfort zone and opened my mind to new cultures and ways of thinking,” Emily says of her early modelling days. Although she was thrilled with all the travelling and sightseeing she was doing, modelling was an eye opening experience that helped shape her path toward sustainability. “My journey into sustainable fashion took off about 5 years ago when I was modelling overseas. Being surrounded by fashion every day I saw a lot of waste, seeing styles go on sale quickly to be replaced by this season’s latest ‘it’ dress.” Like most people who find themselves involved in ethical fashion, Emily asked all the relevant questions: where were the clothes made, who were they made by and what where they made from?

The answers to these questions propelled Emily into social, environmental and animal rights activism. But it was the overwhelming poverty and injustice she witnessed firsthand that cemented her resolve to make a difference: “Living overseas whilst modelling I was exposed to a lot of things that we can be sheltered from here in Australia.”

What she saw sparked the idea to create a sustainable and ethical business. She founded EKOLUV an online shop offering styling ethical and sustainable fashion and accessories stocking popular brands including Kowtow, Lalesso and Mettle. “Many people still have pre-conceived ideas surrounding what eco-friendly fashion is, that it is limited to drab hippy shirts but in actual fact there is a growing industry and wide selection of sustainable fashion products available.” Browsing through the EKOLUV website and its stylish fashion offerings, it is obvious that Emily is setting out to prove people wrong – and looks to be succeeding too. “I think the biggest challenge for [our] industry is for sustainable fashion to be on trend, fashion forward or to be seen as ‘fashionable’ for it to really catch on, on a massive scale.” At the time of writing, EKOLUV has amassed a following of 8600 followers on Instagram and just shy of 5000 fans on Facebook. Not bad for an ethical fashion business competing with the large marketing budgets of fast fashion.

There is no doubt that with their winning trifecta of beauty, brains and heart, these fashion models turned ethical and eco fashion advocates serve as greater role models than many of their counterparts. As the sustainable fashion industry is only in its infancy, there is hope that many fashion models will make the cross over.

This is a two part blog series. Subscribe to the blog and be the first to read Part 2. Find out how they define ethical fashion, what they think the future of fashion looks like and their favourite inspirational quotes.

Eco Fashion, General, Musings, Outfit

‘Ugly’ is in the Eye of the Beholder

January 10, 2015
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Artfully applying a nude lippie first thing in the morning was a habit that was hard for me to shrug. So was the straightening of my hair (or perfecting the curls) with my GHD. Every day I flicked the liquid eyeliner up and above, winging it further like the stroke of the Nike symbol. I spent so much time in front of the mirror my name should have been changed to Narcissus.

However this beauty habit has unraveled in the last several years. I have spent less time looking in mirrors and more time self-reflecting; leading me to question the beauty ideal I was striving for. I’m not saying I’m past the point of caring. I’m not. I’m merely saying that rather than being compelled to the unattainable ‘gold’ standard of beauty, my idea of beauty has deviated from this status quo – one that is natural, genuine and real.

Ugly is in the eye of the beholder

‘Ugly’ Ethical Fashion

The ‘gold’ standard of beauty and its relentless striving for ‘perfection’ is tainting other parts of life – including ethical fashion. An ethical fashion blogger recently posed this question about ‘ugly’ ethical fashion clothing: “Do you ever wish #slowfashion just wasn’t ugly?” Needless to say the question was off-putting and rubbed me up the wrong way. I believe in diversity in all areas of life, including fashion because unlike this blogger, I view fashion as an expression of one’s self as well as that of the designer. To call something ‘ugly’ implies that you believe not only that the person looks ugly, you are questioning their taste and that of the fashion designer. I take offence just like the time when a model agent thought she was complimenting me by saying ‘Asian models’ were in when in fact, I never thought Asian people were ‘out’. Furthermore, in my opinion, to insinuate that all ethical fashion is ‘ugly’ is just sheer folly.

So here was my written response to this question (word for word):

“Indeed, although aesthetic is personal good design is good design – what I consider ugly may rock someone else’s boat though. Providing constructive feedback is a start but most designers will ‘get it’ if their products don’t sell. But there are some products that do sell that I don’t quite understand myself. So if they are a successful ‘ethical fashion’ brand with bad design, then it either means:

  • ‘mindful’ people are buying poor ugly design; or
  • the business has really good PR/marketing; or
  • your aesthetic/taste is just different.”

If you are to use the word ‘ugly’ to describe the appearance of another person, a piece of art, a design or any other object, you better be prepared that someone like me will call you out on these opinions.

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Challenge the ‘beauty’ quo

One of the benefits of exercising my critical thinking muscles (and probably a side effect of growing older and wiser) is my liberation from the impossible beauty standard. Unlike women who hold on to youthful beauty by pumping Botox into their foreheads, collagen into their lips, wearing impractical heels that cause calluses, wearing makeup that ages them more, clothes too tight (and Spanx even tighter) and nails that look plastic and tartish, I applaud the women who refuse to be subjected to this mainstream notion of beauty. In her book Let’s Just Say it Wasn’t Pretty actress Diane Keaton went on to describe an online article “Top 10 Female Celebrities Who Are Ugly No Matter What Hollywood Says” written by an obscure blogger who slammed some of Hollywood’s most beautiful actresses such as: Angelina Jolie (“She looks like Skeletor from He-Man”); Reese Witherspoon (“genetic mistake”) and the list even included Diane Keaton herself (“She’s even ugly in the Godfather when she was young.”) This article is proof that in the matters of beauty and ugliness, your opinion is entirely subjective.

Keaton’s book is an interesting read, exploring the notion of conventional beauty. She writes:

“I respect women who aren’t afraid to push the envelope, women who are inappropriate, women who do what you aren’t supposed to… Each has her own style, her own voice, her own independence, her own stamp, her own method…”

I’d like to think this is why I don’t own a hairbrush or a comb and haven’t brushed my hair for the last two years. Because whether I do or don’t doesn’t really matter – does it? I’ve been to events, birthdays, dinners, fashion shows and brand launches and not once during the last two years have I brushed my hair. And no one has been none the wiser.

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Whilst other women are increasingly brainwashed into thinking they need to do certain things in order to be more ‘beautiful’ and less ‘ugly’ (and by so doing become clones of each other) I am advocating for an idea of beauty that is flawed, that is different, that is imperfect. It may be that I am just naive and my ideas are as far fetched as the ‘gold’ standard of beauty.

I recently wrote the blog post The Thrifted Dress He Can’t Stand in which I tell a story of a favourite thrift summer dress that my fiancé dislikes – highlighting the essential difference of how men and women view fashion. The moral of that blog post is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Thus it could be said that the moral of this blog post is: ‘Ugly’ is also in the eye of the beholder.

In truth, beauty and ugliness come from the same origin. That origin is you.

Ugly is in the eye of the beholder 5Vintage dress: Dear Gladys Vintage Boutique / Sandals + sunglasses: My own / Photographer: Ben McGuire

Eco Fashion, General

Conquer Your Closet Madness in 2015

January 7, 2015
Conquer Your Closet Madness in 2015

I don’t have a wardrobe at the moment. We moved into our gorgeous 100 year old renovated home that contained no built in robes so our clothes – and my poor vintage items – are packed away in a tall boy, several plastic rubbish bags and a couple of suitcases.

So what makes me think I can dish out advice on organising a closet when I don’t even use one?

Good question.

It’s a weird thing to admit but I have a thing for wardrobes. I really do. Some people love sports cars. Some people want big kitchens. Some people love high tech gadgets. I love closet spaces. When I purchased my first house (unit actually), I cared more about the walk in robe and its contents than I did for anything else in the house – even my beloved photographs. An envy of my girlfriends, the wardrobe was immaculate, spacious, colour coordinated with wooden hangers.

So reflecting on my 6 year history with that wardrobe (and hoping that my fiance builds my new one sometime this year) here are my closet organising tips:

Avoid overcrowding & clutter

According to Jemi Armstrong and Linda Arroz who co-wrote “A Guide to Buying and Collecting Affordable Couture” women only wear 20% of what’s in their wardrobes. Editing your wardrobe is a great skill to have if you are looking to live a minimalist life or if you just want to have a closet full of clothes that you actually wear. Personally, I dislike ‘hoarding’ and a cluttered wardrobe with items you don’t care about is not only unsightly, is it impractical and wasteful.

If you wish to edit your wardrobe consider the following questions:

  • Do you have clothes that don’t fit?
  • Do you have clothes that you haven’t worn in over a year?
  • What clothes are worth keeping?
  • Do you have winter and summer clothes in the same closet?
  • Can some of the off-season items be stored elsewhere?
  • Can any of the clothes be donated, swapped or sold?
  • Are your shoes put away in a disorderly fashion?
  • Do you have clothes you consider too sentimental to throw away?
  • Do some clothes need professional dry cleaning, repairing, mending or altering?

Once you’ve taken the time to thoughtfully consider these go to your wardrobe and start editing. If you can’t do it alone then get an objective and decisive friend to help. Better yet, call on a personal stylist like my best friend Belinda.

Conquer Closet Madness in 2015

Closet Design

Once you’ve edited your wardrobe you should re-jig your closet to make efficient use of the space. Here are some pointers:

  • Store your garments by item, colour, size, season or outfit.
  • Invest in good quality hangers (metal hangers can cause clothes to become unshapely)
  • Fold and store all knit items or heavy bulky items fold as hangers will cause them to lose shape
  • If the item is a precious fabric such as silk taffeta or velvet either fold away or use cloth garment bags (don’t use plastic as clothes can’t breathe causing this odour and mildew).
  • Block out the sun as light tends to fade fabric over time

Ethical Clothing & Wardrobe Staples

Once you’ve re-organised your wardrobe take a look and identify if there are things that you need that are missing. Wardrobe basics, known as ‘staples’ should be the foundation of any wardrobe. These include the “Top 10″ which are:

  • good pair of jeans
  • fitted blazer
  • tailored suit
  • crisp white shirt
  • LBD – Little Black Dress
  • black pair of pumps or heels
  • a classic trench or other statement coat
  • black cardigan
  • oversized knit
  • classic pair of trousers

I purchase most of my items second hand or vintage and I am a confident online eBay shopper. As wardrobe staples are considered investment pieces, there is nothing inherently wrong with you purchasing them retail. However I strongly recommend you purchase from ethical brands that have a reputation for producing well-made and long lasting clothing from sustainable fabrics.

DIY Moth Balls

And one last thing: don’t forget to vacuum your closet to get rid of dust and moths. This helps to prevent moths from devouring your precious garments and destroying irreplaceable vintage pieces. You can also make your own mothballs with rosemary and thyme (as I have for my linen cupboard and chest of drawers) as most standard mothballs available contain the dangerous chemical naphthalene – a chemical pesticide – which when inhaled (or mistakenly ingested) causes headaches, nausea, dizziness and vomiting.

Let me know if you’ve found this advice helpful or if you have other handy tips to share, please leave comment below.

Eco Fashion, Musings, Outfit

The Thrifted Dress He Can’t Stand

December 23, 2014
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If you’re a woman who dresses purely to impress a man – your man or men in general – this is not a blog post for you. Best be clear about this at the beginning. Perhaps you should be reading Cosmo instead. That magazine caters for women who care about crap like that.

I am not a woman who cares for that nonsense. I’m the kind of woman who dares to make her own choices and wears what she wants according to how she feels. Some people might even label me that word: feminist. In truth, I may politely consider my partners opinion (although I rarely ask him for it), but essentially, I wear what I feel like wearing. My fiancé Ben has given more nods of approval than not. He even helped me cut my hair boy short when my hairdresser wouldn’t – and everyone else was saying “what were you thinking!” So when Ben doesn’t like what I’m wearing, its usually with good reason such as:

  • the outfit isn’t flattering
  • it doesn’t show off my “good” figure
  • the print is “too much”
  • I look like I’m from a different time (too hippie)
  • I look like I’m from a different planet (too strange)

In fact, the idea for this blog post stemmed from an ongoing disagreement we have about one dress in particular: a beige/burnt orange dress with an unusual hemline that I purchased for a bargain price of $7 from recycled “thrift” superstore Savers.

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Why I like it

This second hand dress is actually a ‘Grecian style’ maxi-length halter sundress which is loose and oversized allowing for air circulation. Its relaxed fit means the dress is practical and easy to wear, perfect for warm summer days on the farm or at the beach. The dress has an uneven almost asymmetrical hemline which means its length is shorter at the front than it is at the back. It also has a “boho glam” quality that I look for in all my summer outfits.

Why he doesn’t like it

Each time I wear this dress, Ben makes it clear what he doesn’t like about it: “The dress doesn’t do anything for your boobs – it makes you look flat.” Indeed I was not genetically gifted in the area of boob size and from certain angles, Ben is right, I look like I’ve been swallowed up by two extra unnecessary metres of fabric. Pointing out a fashion catastrophe that involves the questioning of actual bra size (I’m a 10A – 32A in American sizing) may motivate some women to ditch the dress. But not me.

Thrifted Dress - Eco Warrior Princess

Thrift Dress - Eco Warrior Princess

As it happens, I don’t care for wearing bras and couldn’t care less what my bust size looks like in a dress that was designed for comfort. Call me a feminist if you wish but sexiness was definitely not a priority when I purchased this thrifted sundress. I happen to think I look great. I’d like to know what you think too. Just to keep score.

I’m sure I’m not alone in this. If you have a garment/s or outfit that your partner dislikes, please feel free to share your story.